You really do have a talent for this, Terry. Your comedic timing is just impeccable. Love the sweet twist at the end. On the subject of romantic reunions, they can come with so much pressure!!! I've had a guy friend asking to hang out this summer; I know he's had a crush for 20 years now and it's just too much. I can't possibly live up to his expectations and I also dread the moment he'll finally realize I'm not the woman in his fantasies.
Thanks very much, Alicia, tis very kind of you. In terms of the second part of your comment, I don't understand something. I can sort of understand your concern and your dread, but you strike me as a very strong woman, and I don't see why his crush is your problem. I know that sounds harsh, but assuming you're not leading him on, which I am certain you're not, then why do you have to live up to his (or anyone else's) expectations. If he hasn't realised after 20 years that the relationship is never going to be anything else than platonic, I don't know what to say. Or are you dreading that when he does realise he will cut off the relationship completely. As a man who has experienced unrequited crushes, I have a few times had to relinquish the friendship because maintaining the connection was too painful. I apologise if I come across as some heartless and unfeeling ne'er-d-well, but I think ultimately (a) we can do our best to avoid making other people feel bad but can't take responsibility for whether or not they do; and (b) self-preservation is quite important too.
Oh I think it's all much more vain than that. I think I probably somewhat enjoy the image he has of me and feel it would be a pity to ruin it with a real date! I do agree self-preservation is important. The real-er answer is I'm still nursing my wounds and not ready for the dating world regardless of whatever expectations someone has of me. :)
Very sensible. I had a crush on someone for years, and finally plucked up the courage to ask her out, and she said yes. It was awful. I should have stuck with the fantasy. (Not saying that a date with YOU would be awful! 😂) Regarding second part, look after yourself, Alicia. If someone likes you enough and they're a decent person they'll wait. That's the end of my homespun wisdom for Wednesday you'll be pleased to know. 😀
Just charming. Thank you for pointing it out to me. A twelve-year odyssey all for naught. Then suddenly, one happenstance meeting and there was the one you were really looking for. There is a message there somewhere. Beautiful. Now I feel as if I have met you.
PS I am looking forward to reading all your pieces about teaching to compare notes. I taught adult education, myself, for many years.
Thanks, Sharron. I was dead nervous giving that talk -- all without notes I should add! Thank you for your kind words about it. Yes, it's funny how life has a habit of giving us what is good for us. I wouldn't say it was all for naught though. The two years I spent with Ruth were wonderful. Look in the section called As I Was Saying. I just added a rant, I mean a well-reasoned and mellow-sounding article based on a conversation I overheard yesterday. Enjoy!
Brilliant! Loved your story and it was wonderful to hear your voice. Great recording. I felt I was in the room. Twelve years is dedication! The end was completely endearing for this romantic soul!
I love your writing style! On the topic of love, my husband and I did get to be the intuitively guided photographers for a freshly engagement couple this morning. After coffee and walk at the park nearest our home, I got the sudden urge to go to the duckpond at the arboretum. When we arrived on the steps, I felt to wait an extra bit, just a few more moment before descending. And there was a couple, who asked if we would take their photograpshs. They'd just gotten engaged - JUST in the moment before. We were so pleased!
In context of this post, it looks a bit out of place. Lol. I know you mean my dog, not my husband, who clearly listens to my intuitive leanings as you can see above, and which no dictator would! :) Although many a woman has tried to rescue a human dictator, I do not know of much success. Yes, we got our dictator (our dog Adrian from a rescue.) My daughter and I both got the call the same day (intuitive) but it was hubby who knew we needed to get another dog, intuitively, even though we'd have to talk him into getting the first one.
What are your cats names? Our son is a cat man. I love all beings of all species based on their qualities rather than their particular groupings, and the same with humans as with cats and dogs and anything else. We have one cat currently, the other having transitioned recently to higher dimensions.
Minty, Mocha and Elaine, I see how it is. I grow mint in my Garden, I love Mochas and I am certainly pleased that you gave the good hearted gal with nice eyes a chance. I would love to hear HER version of the story! Yours is lovely and downright hilarious and I thought you did a lovely job and I'm glad they let you finish your tale! My cat is Cassius. He is God. According to our two youngest. So if ever we do not know the answer to a question, Cassius knows. Our family is full of heresies, but usually they are True or Funny.
Amazing! well done for following yr intuition. Thanks for nice comment about my writing. Is the recording awful? Just wondering if it makes me sound like an idiot!
I haven't listened, as the day is incredible here and I am dancing in my yarden, and sticking a few beans in the ground. You cannot be other than wonderful if you are being yourself. A little awkwardness never hurt a fellow coming from his heart, is my opinion.
Just got to listen to The Girl with the Long Hair. Priceless! But is she attractive?! Apparently she was. Good on you for not giving up too early.
You really do have a talent for this, Terry. Your comedic timing is just impeccable. Love the sweet twist at the end. On the subject of romantic reunions, they can come with so much pressure!!! I've had a guy friend asking to hang out this summer; I know he's had a crush for 20 years now and it's just too much. I can't possibly live up to his expectations and I also dread the moment he'll finally realize I'm not the woman in his fantasies.
Thanks very much, Alicia, tis very kind of you. In terms of the second part of your comment, I don't understand something. I can sort of understand your concern and your dread, but you strike me as a very strong woman, and I don't see why his crush is your problem. I know that sounds harsh, but assuming you're not leading him on, which I am certain you're not, then why do you have to live up to his (or anyone else's) expectations. If he hasn't realised after 20 years that the relationship is never going to be anything else than platonic, I don't know what to say. Or are you dreading that when he does realise he will cut off the relationship completely. As a man who has experienced unrequited crushes, I have a few times had to relinquish the friendship because maintaining the connection was too painful. I apologise if I come across as some heartless and unfeeling ne'er-d-well, but I think ultimately (a) we can do our best to avoid making other people feel bad but can't take responsibility for whether or not they do; and (b) self-preservation is quite important too.
Oh I think it's all much more vain than that. I think I probably somewhat enjoy the image he has of me and feel it would be a pity to ruin it with a real date! I do agree self-preservation is important. The real-er answer is I'm still nursing my wounds and not ready for the dating world regardless of whatever expectations someone has of me. :)
Very sensible. I had a crush on someone for years, and finally plucked up the courage to ask her out, and she said yes. It was awful. I should have stuck with the fantasy. (Not saying that a date with YOU would be awful! 😂) Regarding second part, look after yourself, Alicia. If someone likes you enough and they're a decent person they'll wait. That's the end of my homespun wisdom for Wednesday you'll be pleased to know. 😀
Oh, dates with me are DELIGHTFUL! Obviously. Still. 😂
Thank you for the homespun wisdom, Terry! Means a lot.
I don't doubt it 😉 You're welcome!
'The Girl With The Long Hair' when I clicked the link it lead to a segment on Gay love was that intentional Terry?
Click the link right at the bottom
No! They must have changed the link. I will try and correct it . Thanks for telling me
Just charming. Thank you for pointing it out to me. A twelve-year odyssey all for naught. Then suddenly, one happenstance meeting and there was the one you were really looking for. There is a message there somewhere. Beautiful. Now I feel as if I have met you.
PS I am looking forward to reading all your pieces about teaching to compare notes. I taught adult education, myself, for many years.
Thanks, Sharron. I was dead nervous giving that talk -- all without notes I should add! Thank you for your kind words about it. Yes, it's funny how life has a habit of giving us what is good for us. I wouldn't say it was all for naught though. The two years I spent with Ruth were wonderful. Look in the section called As I Was Saying. I just added a rant, I mean a well-reasoned and mellow-sounding article based on a conversation I overheard yesterday. Enjoy!
PS did it make you laugh? It was a great audience :-)
Brilliant! Loved your story and it was wonderful to hear your voice. Great recording. I felt I was in the room. Twelve years is dedication! The end was completely endearing for this romantic soul!
It's wonderful.
I love your writing style! On the topic of love, my husband and I did get to be the intuitively guided photographers for a freshly engagement couple this morning. After coffee and walk at the park nearest our home, I got the sudden urge to go to the duckpond at the arboretum. When we arrived on the steps, I felt to wait an extra bit, just a few more moment before descending. And there was a couple, who asked if we would take their photograpshs. They'd just gotten engaged - JUST in the moment before. We were so pleased!
did you get your dictator from a rescue place? we've always got our cats as rescue cats, and you rarely know what they've been thru
In context of this post, it looks a bit out of place. Lol. I know you mean my dog, not my husband, who clearly listens to my intuitive leanings as you can see above, and which no dictator would! :) Although many a woman has tried to rescue a human dictator, I do not know of much success. Yes, we got our dictator (our dog Adrian from a rescue.) My daughter and I both got the call the same day (intuitive) but it was hubby who knew we needed to get another dog, intuitively, even though we'd have to talk him into getting the first one.
Lol. I put it here because I couldn't do so on your original post!
What are your cats names? Our son is a cat man. I love all beings of all species based on their qualities rather than their particular groupings, and the same with humans as with cats and dogs and anything else. We have one cat currently, the other having transitioned recently to higher dimensions.
I will have to write about this. They are Willow, my brother, and Minty and Mocha, my girlfriends
Minty, Mocha and Elaine, I see how it is. I grow mint in my Garden, I love Mochas and I am certainly pleased that you gave the good hearted gal with nice eyes a chance. I would love to hear HER version of the story! Yours is lovely and downright hilarious and I thought you did a lovely job and I'm glad they let you finish your tale! My cat is Cassius. He is God. According to our two youngest. So if ever we do not know the answer to a question, Cassius knows. Our family is full of heresies, but usually they are True or Funny.
Lol. Yes, we are our cats' staff, not owners . Thanks for kind words
Amazing! well done for following yr intuition. Thanks for nice comment about my writing. Is the recording awful? Just wondering if it makes me sound like an idiot!
I haven't listened, as the day is incredible here and I am dancing in my yarden, and sticking a few beans in the ground. You cannot be other than wonderful if you are being yourself. A little awkwardness never hurt a fellow coming from his heart, is my opinion.
:-) Well do have a listen when the sun goes down: it might give you a laugh
No. I could make one I suppose.
Much of the enjoyment of this is my timing and the audience reaction. Those aspects don't come across in writing (I've tried it in the past).